Be More Kind

“Never be curel, never be cowardly…Remember, hate is always foolish, and love is always wise. Always try to be nice, but never fail to be kind”. – The Doctor, “Twice Upon a Time”.

I’m not a wise old Druid. I’m quite far from any of those things. But just for today, let me pretend to be one.

There is, in human life, a lot of cruelty and cowardice. And not enough kindness.

If you only read the news, or spent too much time on social media as is the way of us who are Extremely Online, it might even seem that there is no kindness.

It is there, if you look for it.

There is great kindness.

There are people giving so much, helping so many, saving lives, both human and non-human alike.

Then there are people who smile, help with heavy loads, share food, use the correct pronouns for others, offer a cup of tea and a listening ear, give what they can when they can to whoever needs it.

There is love, and acceptance, and community, and support, and nurturing.

Look for it, find it.

And if you can’t find it, make it.

“There’s only one rule I know of…God damn it, you’ve got to be kind.” – Kurt Vonnegut.

The coming Winter Solstice teaches us many lessons, one of them being this – in the darkest night, the smallest light can grow into a blazing sun.

At the point of longest dark, as the earth continues to move, the sun, seemingly small and weak, is seen once more. Then each night from that point is shorter, the light increases, small moment by small moment.

If you can’t see the light, be the light.

Be the candle flame, small and flickering in the cold and the dark and the wind. Tiny and fragile. And powerful.

Then light another’s candle with your own.

A little gesture, passed on from one to another, a small way to increase the light, and the hope.

Each tiny movement shifting the moral arc of the universe one bit more in the direction of love.

I truly believe that so many of our social and political evils could be defeated if everyone just took The Doctor’s advice, and remembered that hate is always foolish, love is always wise, and never fail to be kind.

It sounds naive, I know.

But it is all there is, really.

We are unbelievably small, ephemeral, beings. We live for a short time, on one tiny planet, then we die. And we spend so much of that time fearing each other, hating each other.

“For small creatures such as we, the vastness is bearable only through love”. – Carl Sagan.

Being kind might not change the world – but it might.

It’s worth a try, anyway. We’re all going to die, so what do we have to lose?

“If nothing we do matters, then all that matters is what we do”. – Angel, “Epiphany”.

So there’s my Druid Wisdom, for what it’s worth.

Be more kind.

“Why not, just at the end, just be kind?” – The Doctor, “The Doctor Falls”.

 

4 Comments

  1. All right,” said Susan. “I’m not stupid. You’re saying humans need… fantasies to make life bearable.”

    REALLY? AS IF IT WAS SOME KIND OF PINK PILL? NO. HUMANS NEED FANTASY TO BE HUMAN. TO BE THE PLACE WHERE THE FALLING ANGEL MEETS THE RISING APE.

    “Tooth fairies? Hogfathers? Little—”

    YES. AS PRACTICE. YOU HAVE TO START OUT LEARNING TO BELIEVE THE LITTLE LIES.

    “So we can believe the big ones?”

    YES. JUSTICE. MERCY. DUTY. THAT SORT OF THING.

    “They’re not the same at all!”

    YOU THINK SO? THEN TAKE THE UNIVERSE AND GRIND IT DOWN TO THE FINEST POWDER AND SIEVE IT THROUGH THE FINEST SIEVE AND THEN SHOW ME ONE ATOM OF JUSTICE, ONE MOLECULE OF MERCY. AND YET—Death waved a hand. AND YET YOU ACT AS IF THERE IS SOME IDEAL ORDER IN THE WORLD, AS IF THERE IS SOME…SOME RIGHTNESS IN THE UNIVERSE BY WHICH IT MAY BE JUDGED.

    “Yes, but people have got to believe that, or what’s the point—”

    MY POINT EXACTLY.
    Terry Pratchett, Hogfather

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